Relation to Mother 与母亲的关系 There was a special quality about Gloria's relation with her mother. There was a strong and quite infantile yearning for a loving acceptance with her mother. This yearning was extremely primitive: I had the impression time and again while Gloria was talking about her mother that I was sitting with an infant who was crying for the warmth and protection of her mother's body and reaching desperately for for her mother's breast. Gloria expressed her wish for closeness with her mother in a manner that seemed to me highly regressive and primitive—the yearning of a helpless infant for the warmth and protection of the mother's arms. Along with this desperate and infantile longing, there was a sense of continual frustration and disappointment, as well as intense rage as the inevitable consequence of such intense wishes and their continual disappointment. This sense of profound and very primitive longing permeated everything that Gloria had to do or say about her mother. She complained often bitterly about the way in which her mother criticized and undercut her. She portrayed herself as trying as hard as she could to please her mother but never seeming able to satisfy her. But behind these complaints there was always a desperate longing for mother' s love and affection that seemed bottomless and insatiable. Whatever she got from mother, it was not—and could not be—enough. Gloria complained again and again that she never got enough from mother, never got what she wanted, never got enough attention or affection. It took her a long time before we could begin to approach Gloria's rage at mother for continually disappointing her. Gloria felt from as far back in her life as she could remember that her mother did not want her and did not love her. She turned her rage into feelings of worthlessness and hatefulness, blaming herself for the fact that she felt unloved and unwanted. 歌洛莉亚和她母亲的关系有一种特殊的气质。她有一种强烈的、相当孩子气的渴望，渴望得到母亲的爱和接纳。这种渴望是极其原始的:当格洛丽亚在谈论她的母亲时，我一次又一次地有这样的印象:我和一个婴儿坐在一起，婴儿哭喊着要她母亲的温暖和保护，拼命地想抓住她母亲的乳房。格洛丽亚表达了她想和母亲亲近的愿望，她的方式在我看来是一种高度退化和原始的——一个无助的婴儿对母亲怀抱的温暖和保护的渴望。除了这种绝望和幼稚的渴望之外，还有一种不断受挫和失望的感觉，以及作为这种强烈的愿望和不断的失望必然结果的强烈的愤怒。这种深切而原始的渴望，渗透在格洛里亚对她母亲的一切言行之中。她经常痛苦地抱怨她母亲批评和贬低她的方式。她把自己描绘成尽力取悦母亲，但似乎永远无法让母亲满意。但在这些抱怨的背后，总是有一种对母亲的爱和感情的绝望的渴望，这种渴望似乎永无止境，永不满足。无论她从母亲那里得到什么，都是不够的——不能够的。格洛丽亚一次又一次地抱怨说，她从来没有从母亲那里得到足够的东西，从来没有得到她想要的东西，从来没有得到足够的关注和关爱。过了很长时间，我们才开始接近格洛里亚对母亲总是让她失望的愤怒。格洛丽亚从她记事以来就觉得，她母亲不需要她，也不爱她。她把自己的愤怒变成了一种没有价值和可恨的感觉[觉得自己没有价值，糟糕]，为自己感到不被爱和不被需要而自责。