Relationship to Father 与父亲的关系 Don did not feel at all close to his father. Their relationship was a distant and difficult one through most of his childhood. He regarded his father—perhaps not inaccurately—as a violent man. He hated and feared him because of the way he treated his mother. Don felt a sense of smoldering anger and resentment against his father for as long as he could remember. His father was rather strict and rigid in his attitudes. He was quite conservative in his views and very authoritarian in his outlook. Don found this attitude of his father hard to take, and continually chafed against it. Even in later years there was constant friction between father and son over Don's wishes to follow his own inclinations. The conflict touched just about everything, including his dating activities, the college he went to, and the career he chose to follow. Father was generally restrictive and conservative, and any attempts on Don's part to break away or follow his own inclinations met with severe resistance and opposition from his father. 唐觉得自己和父亲一点也不亲近。在他童年的大部分时间里，他们的关系都是疏远而艰难的。他认为他的父亲——也许并非不准确——是个暴力的人。因为他对待母亲的方式，他又恨又怕他。从记事起，唐就对他的父亲有一种郁积的愤怒和怨恨。他父亲的态度相当严格。他的观点相当保守，非常权威。唐觉得他父亲的这种态度令人难以接受，不断地与他作对。即使在后来的几年里，父子之间也经常因为唐想要随心所欲而发生摩擦。这场冲突几乎触及了一切，包括他的约会活动，他上的大学，以及他选择的职业。父亲一般都是限制性的、保守的，唐任何想要脱离或遵循自己意愿的尝试都会遭到父亲的强烈抵制和反对。 Don discovered when he was about eighteen that, in fact, his father had led a somewhat flamboyant and wild youth. Father had been a rather wild and rebellious—as well as angry—young man. He had eloped when he was a sophomore in college and had married his girl friend. The marriage lasted only a year and ended in divorce. It was only several years later that his father met his mother. Don reflected that his image of his father just didn't fit with his current attitudes as Don knew them. With considerable resentment, Don commented that the things his father did were several times as bad as anything Don had ever thought of doing—let alone actually done. Yet his father would give him hell for his minor infractions. Don could not see the justice in this. 唐在十八岁左右的时候发现，他的父亲年轻时实际上过着一种有点浮夸和放荡的生活。父亲曾经是一个相当狂野、叛逆——同时也是易怒——的年轻人。他在大学二年级的时候私奔了，并和他的女朋友结婚了。这段婚姻只维持了一年就以离婚告终。几年后，他的父亲遇见了他的母亲。唐说，他对父亲的印象与他现在对他们的态度不相符。唐非常怨恨地说，他父亲做的事情比他想过要做的任何事情都要糟糕好几倍——更不用说他实际做过的了。但他的父亲却会因为他的一点小违规就狠狠地骂他。唐认为这是不公平的。