Struggle for Independence 为独立而斗争 The circumstances of Don's life changed radically after his mother's death. Things were unhappy for him at home. He could not get along with his authoritarian father, and there was little by way of positive affection that passed between them. If his father was not depressed and withdrawn, he was making demands on Don and setting restrictions against which Don felt he had to rebel and struggle. Don's relationship with his older sister also became considerably more difficult. She was a very domineering person and felt it her responsibility to take over where her mother had left off. She was much more of one mind with her father—very conservative and constricted in her approach—and felt that her mother had babied and catered to Don too much. She set about to rectify this deficiency in his upbringing. Don, in turn, was bitter, resentful, and hated and despised his sister, bitterly resenting her attempts to control and interfere in his life. There was a constant battle between them. Don had lost the protective haven that his mother had provided. 唐的生活环境在他母亲死后发生了翻天覆地的变化。他在家里诸事不顺。他无法与专制的父亲相处，他们之间几乎没有任何正面的情感交流。如果他的父亲不是抑郁和孤僻，他就会对唐提出要求，设定限制，对这些限制唐觉得他必须反抗和斗争。唐和他姐姐的关系也变得相当困难。她是一个非常霸道的人，觉得自己有责任继承母亲的事业。她和父亲的想法更一致——非常保守，做事很拘谨——她觉得母亲太溺爱唐了，太迎合他了。她着手纠正他成长过程中的这一缺陷。唐，反过来，是痛苦的，怨恨的，憎恨和鄙视他的姐姐，痛苦地怨恨她试图控制和干涉他的生活。他们之间经常发生战斗。唐失去了母亲给他的庇护。 Soon after, however, the sister had married and moved out of the house. After the sister moved out, that left Don as the last of the children in the house. Despite their poor relationship, Don's father depended on him to a considerable degree. The father wanted to keep Don at home—out of motives of selfishness and dependence, it seems. The issue was particularly joined over the question of where Don should go to college. The father and sister insisted that he stay at home and attend a local institution that enjoyed a very good academic reputation. Don, however, cherished an ambition to attend a more prestigious institution away from home. It was also his ticket to freedom. 然而，不久之后，姐姐结婚了，搬出了这所房子。姐姐搬走后，唐成了家里最后一个孩子。尽管他们关系不好，唐的父亲在很大程度上依赖他。父亲想把唐留在家里——似乎是出于自私和依赖的动机。这个问题在唐应该上哪所大学的问题上特别突出。父亲和姐姐坚持让他呆在家里，上当地一所学术声誉很好的学校。然而，唐有一个雄心壮志，想去离家更有名望的学校读书。这也是他获得自由的门票。 The argument raged intensely, but Don's argument and objections did not put much of a dent in his father's resolve. Then, too, Don could not quite master his own ambivalence. He wanted to leave his family—particularly his father. They did not get along and he hated the old man, particularly for the way he had treated Don's mother and all the misery he had caused her—as Don saw it. Part of him wanted nothing better than to get away from his father and his family—to get out from under their thumbs. But at the same time he felt guilty about these feelings and for the rage and hatred he felt toward his father. Moreover, he worried about his own capacity to function and be independent away from home. He had always lived at home—he had always been extremely dependent and protected especially by his mother. His ambivalence and his uncertainty kept him from making a break at that point, and he capitulated to their wishes. He stayed at home and went to the local school for two years. 争论激烈起来，但唐的争论和反对并没有动摇父亲的决心。而且，唐也不能完全控制自己的矛盾心理。他想离开他的家庭——尤其是他的父亲。他们相处不好，他恨那个老人，尤其是他对待唐的母亲的方式，以及他给她带来的所有痛苦——正如唐看到的那样。他的一部分愿望就是离开他的父亲和他的家人——从他们的控制下挣脱出来。但与此同时，他又为自己的这些感受和对父亲的愤怒和仇恨感到内疚。此外，他担心自己的工作能力和离家后的独立能力。他一直住在家里——他一直非常依赖别人，尤其受到他母亲的保护。他的矛盾和不确定使他没能在此时决裂，他屈服于他们的愿望。他呆在家里，在当地的学校上了两年学。 By that time he had had enough. He overcame his ambivalence and worked up enough courage to confront his father's wishes and to make the break from home. His father gave in, but not without prognostications of Don's failure. His father predicted that he would not be able to make his own way away from home, and that he would not be able to meet the high academic standards of the school to which he wished to transfer. Thus, when Don came to our city to further his academic career, that action was laden with all the overtones of an act of rebellion, an expression of his rage and resentment against his father; an abandonment of the latter, who claimed that he needed him and clung to him possessively; an assertion of independence from father and family; and a challenge to his own sense of masculinity and personal adequacy and his capacity to master new challenges. As we can conjecture on the basis of this history—and as it turned out in fact—Don was vulnerable on any one and on all of these counts. 到那时他已经受够了。他克服了自己的矛盾心理，鼓起了足够的勇气去面对父亲的愿望，并与家决裂。他的父亲让步了，但预言唐会失败。他的父亲预测，他将无法自己离开家，也无法达到他想转学的那所学校的高学术标准。因此，当唐来到我们的城市继续他的学术生涯时，这一行动充满了反叛行为的所有暗示，表达了他对父亲的愤怒和怨恨；对后者的抛弃，后者声称他需要他，并紧紧地依附着他；主张独立于父亲和家庭；这是对他自身的男子气概和个人能力以及他应对新挑战的能力的挑战。根据这段历史，我们可以推测——事实也证明——唐在任何一个以及所有这些方面都是脆弱的。